One great thing about taking my time off to become a monk is that, for fifteen days straight, I really do not have to worry about my life as I throw away almost everything about how one should live in the system. This path of choice allows me to be quite wide-visioned in spotting life problems from those around me.
Not everything is worth my grief as I am also able to spot moments of fulfillment and happiness. I would much love to rephrase it into a “milestone” — everybody has a few of those, all of which are unique to them.
Firstly, let us pretend that the first half of the other 300 followers madness post never happened. While the other half was sincere, I’d figured that three is my favorite number and if I’d outdone my 100 followers post with the 200, then I ought to outdo that one with this. I see it as a way to improve — beating yourself is probably the greatest way to start your journey onto beating others. For when you become the pinnacle, you will only have yourself to beat from there on.
The catch is, none of it will feel like being back to square one since there is a clear difference between the first and the most recent time you have done it.
Now, I will once again, humbly thank all of you who had really kept me on my toes for every time my posts went out to the public. Some of you might have not appeared on my blog all the time; some might have been very new.
I still thank you all the same.
And then, whether you have yet to reach the 300 mark or have gone past it; uncertainty lurks behind our backs and never leaves no matter how badly you want it to go away. Give all creators the benefit of doubt — at least for me this time.
I am almost certain that the existence of my blog and myself can be quite representative of bloggers who run their blogs solo. With that in mind, I will gladly respond to the fiery hot question for bloggers which we hardly hesitate to answer but would always preferred not to.
“Have you ever thought about quitting the blog (and perhaps blogging altogether)?”
Four out of five closest bloggers to me have said yes. Add myself into the pool makes five out of six. Go through their (and my) fully elaborated answers and you will catch a surprising amount of similarities — what they thought of when they felt like quitting. Do bear in mind that great blogs are indeed run by human with myriad emotions. This means life-changing events can, but not neccessarily will, also change the blog for better or worse.
Just when you think about your life’s journey coming to hit a wall, it never hurt to think about possibilities of taking either turns. Life is full of surprises; here will be experiences you have yet to hold onto. This naturally means you will want to talk about them shall they make you feel the excitement shivers.
Without any meaningful support from family and friends, leaving them here on the internet is by all means better than talking to a wall.
Now, from my very own experience, people who has truly found a new path in life, be it hobby or career, will not hesitate in the slightest to take a turn and move on. What they will not do also, is leaving any kind of depressing parting message behind (especially on the internet). Real heroes don’t need to say anything, for when they are truly gone, people will call out to them. You can test that out for yourself!
Have the world know that there is more to life than just blogging. You cannot fit your entire life’s story into a blog alone even if you try your damndest, so do your best while it remains interesting. Given that you have left a decent impression on your viewers, it becomes very natural that they want to know what you can be up to whenever in front of you is not a blogging device. So when you say that you have found a new thing to pursue and that it would be at a sacrifice of your blog, your followers may not follow you there but they will most definitely wonder.
Curiosity moves people. It makes people do something to fill the void caused by experiencing uncertainty. It is a powerful source of motivation for most and introverts are no exceptions.
Give your followers a hint of things worth pursuing in life; have them become curious — motivated. Why do you think motivation speeches work?
Because the people who say it are probably successful themselves; it is simply the power of credibility.
You, the content creator, may have at least once felt somewhat insignificant; that’s surely how many who have left felt at the time they’d decided to vanish. They probably knew that by moving on they would at some point find their significance and more importantly a place to belong. Hopefully this will be the case for you as well when the decision to depart has taken its time and has been fully thought out to all corners of dis/pleasure, which really comes down to the things you love to do versus the things you have to do.
Now, if you are still reading this post and really did get up to this point then you probably wanted to know my thoughts regarding whatever is on other side of the grass. I can honestly tell you that it ain’t always green.
Not everyone who’d left the blogging hobby behind would feel like it was a mistake. In fact, a lot of them would have now thought it was one of those experience they could never get back. They cannot relive it — the whole thing feels too similar to having played video games a decade prior so the one thing everyone of these ex-bloggers will encounter upon looking back is nostalgia.
If you find yourself to be like these guys — I wish you the best of luck on your new journey and I will always welcome you back.
Now, what if it all went the other way? What if blogging was indeed a mistake, as claimed by you, who is probably on a verge of closing down your blog and leaving the community altogether?
Boy. Let me tell you that dealing with problematic people is my number one voluntary job of my life and while it hurts my head because each individual case is a completely different kind of pain in the ass; what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger. Partially solving each individual’s problem would accumulate into a bigger experience cloud which I know will improve the quality of my life. They say sometimes the best defence is offense so getting actively involved with these things feel almost like a preparation for the real thing. Also, human psychology is mostly set in stone; we either do this/that or do not — the fun part has to always be why.
So, you plan on shutting down the blog. Why?
And so, you plan on… what else exactly?
I am going to have you see a very simple equation, in which groundbreaking logic is embedded into it.
1 + 1 = 2
No. I am not Big Shaq with quick maths. And no. I am not being a smartass either! This is not a riddle for you to solve, but rather a thought provoking idea behind legitimacy of one’s reasons.
So why is it that there has to be two 1’s together to make up the number two?
Why does it have to be number one at all?
If it was not for the teaching of simple logic called mathematics, you might as well use any other number instead of one and still, nobody would question the legitimacy of the equation.
Scratch the numbers for now and let me share my one deep thought after having seen so many people “quit”; not just blogging but giving up things in general. From the moment you decide to leave me, I care about you as much as you do to your reasoning. Let us look at the equation again:
Reason + Reason = Quitting
Am I really being a smartass this time? You might have asked.
And why with two reasons?
Never ever in my life have I known a person on Earth who quits something for a single valid reason. Deep down one hides their sentiments well, it will actually bother them to reveal too early. What do they call that again?
Ah. Those pent-up feelings.
Unlike maths however, the equation above is somewhat special. Your reasons do not have to actually be wholesome but they still have to be legitimate, i.e. no excuses. There are even reasons to reasons themselves which becomes the foundation of detective works you see happening today. There are three sides to the story; yours, theirs and the one truth.
As much as you will hate to admit; the legitimacy of your followers’ condolences are almost always equal to that of your reasons for quitting.
There are already a good amount of blog posts from other bloggers in the sphere which have listed most common excuses bloggers use to not be active. If you want to read them so bad then ask in the comments — I’ll be more than glad to search them for you.
Let you use one of those for example…
Say, your first reason to quit blogging is because you have no time — that is probably among the most used sugar-coated reason I have ever seen. My stepdad would tell me that, “Each day is 24 hours. If that is not enough then use the night.”
Okay, that may be too hardcore since blogging is apparently your hobby. But let this idea sink in: we all really have 24 hours a day, equal. For whatever “reason” you are self forced to spend a few hours of your supposed free time of the week to do anything else but blog, is the one truth. That makes one legitimate reason already. Nobody is really going to ask you anything else since this is the internet — until the beans are spilled you remain anonymous. But I will ask you something you would have sure asked yourself inside your own head: just how important is this “activity”, to the point that I have to spare my hobby time?
For an example, that activity being to study; you would have to grind the books or else you would end up not graduating and ultimately not landing a well paid job. From this you have two reasons that truly make up your decision to quit: one being that you need to study in order to pass subjects/papers and the other one being that you want a good paying job so you will not have to financially suffer in the future. The two are tightly correlated but exist as two completely different reasons since you can fail your studies but miraculously end up landing a good job. Likewise you can also have all A+ but end up jobless (R.I.P. my friends). Both studies and job hunting require massive time investment — nobody who ain’t stupid would not tell you this.
Ultimately, blogging is one of the most “free” forms of content creation. Your blog means your rules, but common sense kicks in when you cannot set them straight. Nobody is forcing you to publish a post every week so why the excuse, right?
I know… I know. It all leads to “money”. But that is for later, down the post.
The excuses I want to write about in this post goes further beyond simple reasoning and almost always have hidden truths behind them; all the more of why the very thing is called excuse!
Everything in the name of “shit”
My content is shit. My follower count is dropping like shit as a result. My whole blog is probably shit, too.
No sonny. The only shitty thing here is your attitude towards everything, your self included. And do not even think that calling yourself a horrible, talentless person after all of that would in any way make a scapegoat for misdirected anger. Get a load of this yo:
Somewhere out there, someone is always doing something better than you. Same goes for me too, actually. But why do I care to let it stop me from doing what I “love”?
There it is — the truth behind complaints about being subpar. From the moment you start calling your content ‘shit’, you no longer are making them because you love to. You have ulterior motives which would not take a few seconds for others to say after they read your complaints. The feeling of competitiveness strokes my ego better than I do myself, to be honest. And why is it that we compare ourselves to others as a mean to measure our successes, again?
Everybody has different preference to success. If say, follower count defines your success then you should really consider blogging a job because it works exactly the same way as anything else which involves customers:
– Your content will actually have to make people, or in this case your potential customers, react. It has to be good and in order to do just that…
– You yourself have to be “good”.
The things you create are only as good as you are.
The thing about blogging, especially here in the anime blogging community, is that it is tightly fixed. Everything you do from day one would build you up to potentially be an upstanding member of the community. Look, I am spamming the word community a lot here so take a hint already.
You are never alone. It is entirely your choice to be alone. Even if that is not the choice you have made, your actions speak louder than words so every little interactions will help a long way. There is one thing however, not allowed to be carried with you at most times and that is your ego. We bloggers are human too, and not stupid. We want to converse with people who either share our ideas/ideals or expressively show the contrast to our views. Respect is second nature to us so it is not something that even I have to type in this post (but I did it. Hooray). What I, and hopefully most of you who managed to read this far, do not want to waste our time with is having to put up with individuals who pretend to be kings/queens, thinking that our 50+ word comments on their blog is only worth nothing more than max of 5 characters response like “lol” or the biggest criminal in my personal dictionary of degenerates, “K.”
You really think by doing that, people would want to talk to you more?
It would be a time you realize the need to adapt instead of eventually calling yourself horrible for the actual horrible things you might have unintentionally done to others beforehand.
This would be another instance of those things you hate to admit but natural selection happens on the internet, too! If you are socially unfit for what I think is probably among the best communities I have ever encountered on the internet, then seek a psychiatrist then come back to blogging yo.
My dog died so I will stop blogging — starting next week.
I actually laughed at what I’ve written… my goodness. Let me clarify this for you: it is completely okay to not be okay for a while. Your loss however is never a reason for you to lose more than you already have! If any kind of it is knowingly caused by depression then again, please seek a psychiatrist and then think about blogs.
Coincidentally Boobgie the YouTuber has came out about his divorce so I snatched his tweet and…
He may have lost a partner but that is not a reason to keep on living and continue doing what he loves — making videos.
You, a blogger, should not be any different unless again, you are totally obsessed over the whole money-making thing.
The lack of family support
This is very much different to the typical “my parents do not like (to see) me blogging”. I will give you a news flash: Of the hundred blogs I follow, almost all of them have authors who admit that their parents either do not like the idea of blogging or they just don’t know about it. My parents, especially my mom, in fact sees blogging as something no different to playing video games. In her own words they would be, “a waste of time.”
This is when you straight up need to sort out priorities in your life. No. You are by all means not required to make up with your family if your relationship with them is anything more than severe. Instead make things clear as day; assure your family and more importantly yourself that from this point on, your hobbies shall no longer be affected by their existence. Until then, do not show up with a blog only to have familial strains as a mere excuse to disappear.
I mean, if you knew that to blog would ultimately led to your family almost disowning you then you should not have started one before truly becoming independent. Funnily this springs back to the time when I talked about having to study and landing a good job so none of this would have happened. See the importance of priorities?
Well, if you still insist that blogging would be the way to go despite all the troubles you have in tow — be in for a brutally honest moment.
Right so, let me straight up pull out an uncomfortable question for all aspiring content creators — no matter the platform:
Do you really see your content making money for you?
Reading between many lines, this question would reveal a few hidden intentions shared among a great portion of hobbyists.
Turning a hobby into a job; casualty into mad dedication — we have always been told by any wise and successful content creator to “do what you love even if you do not initially get paid for it.”
Those people are not wrong at all, but the part which almost no aspiring content creators are willing to stick their eyes and brains into is the timeline for each and every one of those people they look up to.
Just like this 300 followers (much less of a) celebration post, say YouTubers with at least 5 million subs would surely have milestone videos marking from probably ten thousands, which eventually scaled up to millions as the followers count became overwhelming.
But the bigger the number, the more impact your mistakes will have on you and your brand (seriously, who wouldn’t have their own brand after a few million followers?). Uncertainty still lurks around me and most definitely around everyone else too. From a business standpoint, 300 is still deep in the “starter push excuse” territory. This is still going to be painful to read but bear with me here.
Out of the three hundred, how many would actually, constantly interact with your content? Let alone taking a glimpse at it. The reality of it actually further adds to the point which I have just made: another mere excuse.
To keep going.
If you have been snooping around my blog for long then you really know as much as I do. Being the blog owner grants no extra magical powers to see useless stats for hobbyists like myself. If not for the money, what bloggers like myself want more than anything is interactions, lots of them!
With posts ranging from 1 to 15 average, it makes my 300 followers an excuse too when in truth, these 30 or so people who would at times drop by to converse are the real reason I keep blogging.
Like me, Aldael has recently celebrated their 100 followers post. And for obvious reasons, unless your name is Irina and you are hella crazy, your post would not contain every one of your followers’ names on top of something along the lines of what Aldael has written:
Thanks again to all of you – for your encouragement, for your likes, for your comments, for your time and for being such a nice community to be part of!
TL;DR Be yourself but also be ready to adapt. Your troubles are not others’ troubles; do not make them theirs. Life will take turns for better or worse as you grow up so be clear with your goals and steps in it, for when all becomes truly muddy — it may as well be the last thing we see on your blog.
Until then, see you at a time when the number 300 is no longer an excuse but rather a real reason to keep you going.
You will most likely beat me there. I can totally see it, haha!